Essere and Avere: The Mother and Father of the Italian Language

“Mamma? Papà?”

There are just some moments in life when we want to run back to our mothers and fathers.

Maybe you have experienced this in your quest to learn Italian. Sometimes it can all be so overwhelming!

But what if I told you that Italian has its own mother and father you can turn to in your times of need?

Say hello to your new family, the all-important verbs essere (to be) and avere (to have).

Now, I know that these words are merely part of the Italian language, but hear me out: These two little words are arguably the most important verbs in the Italian language.

And like listening to your parents, knowing these verbs inside and out will lead to a prosperous Italian life!


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The Importance of Essere and Avere

Just how important are essere and avere?

Well, for starters, they are two of the most common verbs in the Italian language. They are used in a wide variety of situations and serve as a grammatical aid in many situations.

In fact, like many parents, these verbs are everywhere, sneaking in and helping us out without us even knowing!

The two words are used commonly in their present tense form to mean “to be” (essere) and “to have” (avere). This allows speakers to express their states of being as well as to talk about things they have in their possession.

Essere and avere are also used to create compound tenses such as the passato prossimo (the present perfect tense) and the trapassato prossimo (the past perfect tense). What is a compound tense, you ask? More on that later.

Finally, these two verbs can be used in idiomatic expressions that extend their functions beyond their basic translations. That means that we can use essere and avere in ways that are different from their meanings in English to express new ideas. More on that later, too!

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Essere and Avere: The Mother and Father of the Italian Language

The Conjugations of Essere and Avere

While these two verbs end in -ere (a regular verb ending), they are, in fact, irregular in the present tense. Not to worry, though: once you learn them, they can be used practically everywhere!

Check out their full conjugations in the present tense:

Essere (to be)

Io sono felice. (I am happy.)

Tu sei triste. (You are sad.)

Lui è un avvocato. (He is a lawyer.)

Lei è italiana. (She is Italian.)

Noi siamo in un ristorante. (We are in a restaurant.)

Voi siete francesi. (You all are French.)

Loro sono di Canada. (They are from Canada.)

Avere (to have)

Io ho un libro. (I have a book.)

Tu hai un esame? (Do you have an exam?)

Lui ha un po’ di vino. (He has a little wine.)

Lei ha una forchetta. (She has a fork.)

Noi abbiamo qualcosa da dire. (We have something to say.)

Voi avete fidanzati? (Do you all have boyfriends?)

Loro hanno le chiavi. (They have the keys.)

In other tenses, conjugating essere and avere is a little bit simpler to remember. While both have irregular stems for other tenses such as imperfetto (imperfect) and il futuro semplice (future simple), they follow the almost same conjugation patterns.

For example, in the imperfect, avere uses the stem av- and adds the regular -ere verb endings, but essere is completely irregular. Check them out!

Essere in the Imperfect

Io ero (I was)

Tu eri (You were)

Lui era (He was)

Lei era (She was)

Noi eravamo (We were)

Voi eravate (You all were)

Loro erano (They were)

Avere in the Imperfect

Io avevo (I had)

Tu avevi (You had)

Lui aveva (He had)

Lei aveva (She had)

Noi avevamo (We had)

Voi avevate (You all had)

Loro avevano (They had)

In the future simple, essere uses the stem sar-, and avere uses the stem avr-. To these stems, regular conjugation endings are added.

Essere in the Future Simple

Io sarò (I will be)

Tu sarai (You will be)

Lui sarà (He will be)

Lei sarà (She will be)

Noi saremo (We will be)

Voi sarete (You all will be)

Loro saranno (They will be)

Avere in the Future Simple

Io avrò (I will have)

Tu avrai (You will have)

Lui avrà (He will have)

Lei avrà (She will have)

Noi avremo (We will have)

Voi avrete (You all will have)

Loro avranno (They will have)

Aside from these two tenses, the same stems for the futuro semplice are also used for the condizionale moods (present and past) as well as the futuro anteriore (the future perfect).

As for other other Italian past tenses, such as il passato prossimo (the present perfect), essere and avere have irregular past participles: essere uses stato and avere uses avuto. Both of these verbs take avere as an auxiliary in compound tenses.

Finally, in the congiuntivo (subjunctive), both verbs are highly irregular—but that is a subject for another post.

When to Use Avere

Avere is, of course, used to mean “to have,” but it is also used as an auxiliary for a compound tense (do not worry, we will explain that soon).

It is also used with very specific expressions, like to express age, hunger and thirst:

Maria ha 3 anni. (Maria is 3 years old.)

Io non ho fame. (I am not hungry.)

Luigi ha sete. (Luigi is thirsty.)

Further, avere is used in the expressions “to be in a hurry,” “to be afraid of,” “to need,” “to be sleepy,” “to feel like” and “to deal with.” Take a look at them:

Io ho fretta. (I am in a hurry.)

Mio figlio ha paura di questo film. (My son is afraid of that movie.)

Maria ha bisogno di una penna. (Maria needs a pen.)

Noi non abbiamo sonno. (We are not sleepy.)

Loro hanno voglia di andare. (They feel like going.)

Luigi ha a che fare con i problemi. (Luigi deals with the problems.)

When to Use Essere

Outside of its simple meaning and use in compound tenses, essere is also used in fixed expressions.

It can be used to describe emotions such as anger, happiness, boredom, sadness or worry. It can also be used in idiomatic expressions to describe lateness, stubbornness and tiredness.

Check out these examples:

Mi scusi: sono in ritardo. (Excuse me: I am late.)

Mia sorella è molta testarda. (My sister is very stubborn.)

Loro non sono stanco. (They are not tired.)

Note: contrary to what our English brains might assume, essere is not used to answer the question “come stai?” (“how are you?”). Instead, the verb stare is used for that:

Come stai? Bene, grazie! (How are you? Good, thanks!)

Further, essere is also used as a linking verb that connects subjects with adjectives (description words). When used like this, the adjective must agree in gender and number with the subject.

For example, in the sentence “the bottle is white” (“la bottiglia è bianca”), the word “white” is in its feminine form bianca to agree with the feminine word bottiglia instead of its masculine form bianco.

Lastly, c’è (there is) and ci sono (there are) are also fixed expressions in Italian.

Avere and Essere in Compound Tenses

As we mentioned earlier, both avere and essere are also used as helper verbs (also known as “auxiliary verbs”) in compound tenses.

Common compound tenses include the passato prossimotrapassato prossimo, futuro anteriorecongiuntivo passato (past subjunctive) and condizionale passato (past conditional).

Avere as an Auxiliary

In the compound tenses, avere is used as the auxiliary for most verbs. These are verbs that generally take a direct or indirect object (which is another noun that follows the verb).

In these cases, avere is conjugated in its desired tense, and then the past participle is added.

Verbs that use avere include mangiare (to eat) and leggere (to read). Let’s check out their conjugations in the passato prossimo (the present perfect):

Mangiare (to eat) in the Present Perfect

Io ho mangiato (I ate)

Tu hai mangiato (You ate)

Lui hmangiato (He ate)

Lei ha mangiato (She ate)

Noi abbiamo mangiato (We ate)

Voi avete mangiato (You all ate)

Loro hanno mangiato (They ate)

Leggere (to read) in the Present Perfect

Io ho letto (I read)

Tu hai letto (You read)

Lui ha letto (He read)

Lei ha letto (She read)

Noi abbiamo letto (We read)

Voi avete letto (You all read)

Loro hanno letto (They read)

Essere as an Auxiliary

While avere acts as an auxiliary for a vast majority of Italian verbs, there is a select group of verbs that conjugate with essere in compound tenses.

These verbs include:

  • arrivare (to arrive)
  • andare (to go)
  • uscire (to go out)
  • entrare (to enter)
  • venire (to come)
  • essere (to be)
  • partire (to leave)
  • stare (to stay, to be)
  • sparire (to disappear)
  • tornare (to come back/return)
  • nascere (to be born)
  • morire (to die)
  • rimanere (to remain)

If you are familiar with French, you will notice that some of these verbs are the same DR MRS VANDERTRAMP verbs that take être (to be) in the past tense.

Here are a few more examples:

Sono arrivato alle tre. (I arrived at three o’clock.)

Lui è tornato a casa. (He returned to the house.)

In addition to the above-mentioned verbs, reflexive verbs also take essere as their auxiliary. Reflexive verbs are those with a si in their infinitive such as lavarsi (to wash oneself) or mettersi (to put on clothes).

Io mi sono lavato. (I washed myself.)

Loro si sono messi. (They put on clothes.)

Agreement with Essere

One last thing: when using essere as an auxiliary, the past participle must agree with the gender and number of the subject.

That means that the -o changes to an -a for past participles of feminine, singular subjects, to an -i for past participles of masculine, plural subjects and to an -e for past participles of feminine, plural subjects.

Io mi sono lavato. (I [masculine, singular] washed myself.)

Io mi sono lavata. (I [feminine, singular] washed myself.)

Loro si sono lavati. (They [masculine, plural] washed themselves.)

Loro si sono lavate. (They [feminine, plural] washed themselves.)

But be careful! This agreement happens only with essere and not with verbs that use avere as an auxiliary.

Practice Using Essere and Avere

That is a lot to take in, isn’t it? Well, lucky for you, there are loads of places to practice!

Let’s start off by practicing the conjugations of essere and avere in their present tenses on To Learn Free and Il Tavolo Italiano.

Next, we can look at essere on its own for some enhanced practice of this important verb with exercises from To Learn Free and Pro Profs. Lastly, we need to practice the passato prossimo with these two auxiliaries.

And as we mentioned before, authentic videos like the ones on FluentU are a great way to see how these words are used by actual Italian speakers!


Now that we have gotten to know Italian’s parents better, we can really feel like we are a part of the big Italian family. Use your new knowledge on your road to fluency!

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