{"id":147975,"date":"2023-10-02T09:11:17","date_gmt":"2023-10-02T13:11:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/learn\/learn-english-phrases\/"},"modified":"2025-06-11T11:16:57","modified_gmt":"2025-06-11T15:16:57","slug":"learn-english-phrases","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/english\/learn-english-phrases\/","title":{"rendered":"5 English Phrases Everyone Learns but No One Should Use"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You have been taught some <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/english\/common-english-phrases\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">English phrases<\/a> that you should never use.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m talking about some simple, basic phrases that everyone learns, but are usually never used\u00a0<a title=\"9 Simple Strategies for Real-world English Conversation Practice\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/english\/conversational-english-practice\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">in actual conversations<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>They provide a base to help\u00a0beginners <a title=\"Top 10 ESL English Grammar Mistakes and How to Overcome Them\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/english\/common-mistakes-in-english\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">understand grammar<\/a> and sentence patterns. It&#8217;s only a problem when students keep using these simple phrases instead of using authentic words.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t worry though, we&#8217;ll tell you exactly why you should stop using these five phrases, and give you several options that you can say instead.<\/p>\n<p>[fluentu-toc]<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<h2>Hello. How are you?<\/h2>\n<p>It&#8217;s an innocent question, right?<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s a question that students tend to ask their teachers every day at the beginning of class. Every English teacher has heard this question asked hundreds of thousands of times. That&#8217;s the problem\u2014it&#8217;s used too often by ESL students.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s such a common and overused\u00a0question that it&#8217;s no longer a good question.\u00a0At best, the speaker sounds like a robot and at worst, the speaker sounds bored.<\/p>\n<p>The easiest fix\u00a0is to make the\u00a0question longer.\u00a0The longer the question, the\u00a0better. Not to mention, you&#8217;ll sound like you really care about the answer.<\/p>\n<p>Here are a few alternative questions to ask instead:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nHow are you doing today?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHow are you doing this morning?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHow are you doing this afternoon?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHow are you doing this evening?\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Beginning with the word &#8220;Hello&#8221; is part of what makes the phrase\u00a0sound unnatural and robotic. Instead, with friends try &#8220;Hey,&#8221; &#8220;Hi&#8221; or &#8220;Hey there.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Then, you can also\u00a0change the question completely:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nHey, how&#8217;s it going?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHi, how are you doing?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHi, how are you doing lately?\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There are <a title=\"17 Useful English Greetings for English Learners\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/english\/english-greetings-expressions\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">lots of options<\/a> out there for greeting someone.<\/p>\n<p>But no matter what, please avoid using the phrase &#8220;Hello, how are you?&#8221; It&#8217;s the first thing that English students learn and it should be the first thing you\u00a0replace with a new phrase. There are more than enough options\u00a0so that you&#8217;ll never have to say, &#8220;Hello. How are you?&#8221;ever again.<\/p>\n<h2>I&#8217;m fine.<\/h2>\n<p>If &#8220;Hello. How are you?&#8221; \u00a0was the worst opening question someone can ask, then &#8220;I&#8217;m fine&#8221; is the absolutely worst answer that anyone can give.\u00a0It&#8217;s so bad that most instructors call it the &#8220;conversation killer.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, talk about anything else.\u00a0Just broke up with your girlfriend? Mention it here.\u00a0Bought a new car? Brag a little bit. Going to <a title=\"The Ultimate English Vocabulary Guide For Football \/ Soccer\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/english\/blog\/english-vocabulary-football-soccer-esl\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">watch the soccer game<\/a> tonight? Say that! There is no limit to what you can say in response to &#8220;How are you?&#8221;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nNot great, I just broke up with my girlfriend.\n<\/li>\n<li>\nI just got a new car. It&#8217;s awesome.\n<\/li>\n<li>\nI&#8217;m doing pretty good. In fact, I&#8217;m going to watch a soccer game tonight.\n<\/li>\n<li>\nI&#8217;ve been better. I think I&#8217;m getting sick.\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When people ask &#8220;How are you?,&#8221; don&#8217;t be afraid to bring up some recent good news. Talk about how you just celebrated your daughter&#8217;s birthday or how you got a new high score on Super Mario. Have fun with the answer.<\/p>\n<p>Say anything besides a memorized response.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes your answer to &#8220;How are you?&#8221; will change depending on who asks you the question, so <a title=\"What Your ESL Teacher Didn\u2019t Tell You About \u201cHow Are You?\u201d\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/blog\/english\/how-are-you-esl\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">check out these possible answers<\/a>\u00a0based on how formal you need to be.<\/p>\n<p>And no matter how you answer,\u00a0you should always ask &#8220;How about you?&#8221; in return. It&#8217;s the polite thing to do.<\/p>\n<h2>How old are you?<\/h2>\n<p>Age is a very powerful thing.<\/p>\n<p>In some parts of the world, it&#8217;s important, while in other parts it isn&#8217;t at all. But in some cultures, it&#8217;s rude to ask a person how old they are, so you have to be careful.<\/p>\n<p>In case you really need to know someone&#8217;s age, there are better options. For example, you can ask something like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Where did you go to college?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Then, you can ask,\u00a0&#8220;When did you graduate?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>If you know the person when to college, another\u00a0question you could ask is:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>How long has it been since you graduated?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There are lots of other ways you can figure out more or less how old someone is. If they have children, ask how old the children are. You can also ask, &#8220;How old were you when&#8230;?&#8221; to find out about the person&#8217;s past.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nHow old were you when you started teaching?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHow old were you when you took your first flight?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nHow old were you when you moved to Vermont? \n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It&#8217;s a bit more work, I know. But it&#8217;s worth it to avoid offending the person you are talking to. Of course, waiting until the subject comes up naturally helps too.\u00a0Almost anything works better than asking the question directly.<\/p>\n<p>Personally, I always tell students\u00a0<em>not <\/em>to ask &#8220;How old are you?&#8221;\u00a0It should come up in conversation naturally or not at all. No matter how curious you may be, just forget the question and talk about something else instead.<\/p>\n<h2>Are you from ____?<\/h2>\n<p>Here&#8217;s a big one that gets asked too often.\u00a0Grammatically, there&#8217;s nothing wrong with this question. But what it really means is:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><em>I think you&#8217;re from _____. Are you?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m going to say this once. No one should ever ask this question, ever. There&#8217;s no reason to phrase this question like this.<\/p>\n<p>Many people ask this question to people they meet for the first time. And most of the time, people feel at least a little insulted. Even if you&#8217;re right, the person could feel offended. So this is never the right way to ask.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, try one of these questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nWhere are you from?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nWhere did you grow up?\n<\/li>\n<li>Where were you born?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>These questions are much better. The chances of insulting someone are very low.<\/p>\n<p>Asking a person&#8217;s nationality can be a sensitive topic. But handled carefully, it usually isn&#8217;t a big deal. Still, it&#8217;s safer to be considerate\u00a0of others when asking.<\/p>\n<h2>Did you eat dinner?<\/h2>\n<p>Before I jump into the explanation, I&#8217;d like you to know that this question isn&#8217;t just for dinner. The word &#8220;dinner&#8221; can be changed out for anything else like lunch, breakfast or coffee.<\/p>\n<p>Learning how to ask about dinner to someone sounds simple, but isn&#8217;t. Even learning asking for dinner in English isn&#8217;t always easy, because English speakers tend to be indirect.<\/p>\n<p>Now I know, it looks like a simple and harmless question. The problem is that this question is part of a set:<\/p>\n<p>A: Did you eat dinner?<\/p>\n<p>B: No, I haven&#8217;t yet.<\/p>\n<p>A: Well, would you like to eat dinner together?<\/p>\n<p>If someone answers with a &#8220;yes&#8221; to the first question, there is no reason to ask to eat together. But, if someone answers with a &#8220;no,&#8221; the speaker <em>should<\/em> ask the second question. Asking someone if they&#8217;ve eaten dinner\u00a0without then asking them to eat with you is considered rude.<\/p>\n<p>So if you do not want to invite the person to eat dinner with you (you only want to know if they&#8217;ve eaten or not), there are other options. Here are a few other questions to ask instead:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nDid you get a chance to eat yet?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nDid you get some breakfast \/ lunch \/ dinner?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nWhat did you grab for breakfast \/ lunch \/ dinner?\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For more formal or general situations, use the\u00a0following questions or variations of them:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Where did you go to eat?<\/li>\n<li>Where did you go for breakfast \/ lunch \/ dinner?<\/li>\n<li>What did you eat?<\/li>\n<li>How was breakfast this morning?<\/li>\n<li>How was lunch today?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>None\u00a0of these questions require an invitation to eat together. In fact, if someone answers &#8220;no&#8221; you can just respond with, &#8220;Aw, that&#8217;s too bad.&#8221; Here are a few options for a follow up:<\/p>\n<p>For &#8220;no&#8221; answers:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nWell, would you like to get some ____ with me?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nOh, that&#8217;s too bad. You should probably get some ____.\n<\/li>\n<li>Do you want to eat with me?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For &#8220;yes&#8221; answers:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\nThat&#8217;s good. What&#8217;d you eat?\n<\/li>\n<li>\nGreat, how was it?\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Remember, there&#8217;s no reason to ask &#8220;Did you eat dinner?&#8221; There are more than enough options that sound much better.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And there you have it, five phrases you have definitely learned, but should never use.<\/p>\n<p>To avoid using phrases that aren\u2019t used by native speakers, it\u2019s a good idea to immerse yourself with authentic English content, like magazines, movies, TV shows and so forth. These are made for native speakers, meaning they\u2019ll feature natural English speech. From them, you can see how native speakers really talk, and copy them.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>There are plenty of places you can find such content. You can use online websites like English blogs, news sites, YouTube or Netflix. There\u2019s also the language learning program <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/english\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">FluentU<\/a>, which has a library of English videos. <p><strong>FluentU<\/strong> takes authentic videos\u2014like music videos, movie trailers, news and inspiring talks\u2014and turns them into personalized language learning lessons.<\/p>\r\n<p><\/p> \r\n<p>You can try FluentU for free for 2 weeks. Check out the website or download <a href=\"https:\/\/apps.apple.com\/us\/app\/fluentu-learn-language-videos\/id917892175\">the iOS app<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/play.google.com\/store\/apps\/details?id=com.fluentflix.fluentu&amp;hl=en&amp;gl=US\">Android app.<\/a><\/p>\r\n<p><i><a data-bid=\"1\" data-no-instant=\"1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fluentu.com\/try\/april-sale-3331\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">P.S. Click here to take advantage of our current sale! 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